As we have all heard plenty of times, some of the best lessons in life don’t come out of the books. We may learn from our role models in life– that amazing aunt that is like your second mom, a best friend that has gone through a hard time, or maybe even an older sibling (though not as likely). However, some things must be learned through our own experiences, successes, and failures. For most of us, some of the biggest experiences happen sometime in our high school years, when we begin the long journey to find out who we really are. As the senior class enters their final quarter of their high school career, a few were kind enough to share some of the wisdom they have gained while here at Helias, hoping to help those below who may still be struggling with these hard learned lessons.
“Laugh off the embarrassing moments. They happen to us all,” Anna Hasenbeck shared. “I’ve had my fair share of those. I fell, not out of my desk, but fell over the desk.” Sometimes we tend to get caught up in thinking that all eyes are on us, and that we can never look dumb in front of others. In reality, we can really only be as embarrassed as we allow ourselves to be. There are weird people out there. However, if we aren’t afraid of others’ opinions, we can truly express who we are. In the end, it doesn’t matter what other people thought of us. What truly matters is that we are true to ourselves.
“Be yourself!” Hasenbeck continued. “God made each of us special and unique. Don’t ever change who you are for anyone else. True friends will accept you for who you are.”
One of the hardest things to do in high school is to be yourself. With the constant fear of judgmental eyes, it’s hard to deviate from the norm and be your own person. However, when we step outside of that circle of similarity, we attract those who have done the same. It’s easier for a true friend to see you when you aren’t standing among the group, not just another face in the crowd.
“Never underestimate the therapeutic effect of a good argument,” Jonathan Wildhaber has learned. “Instead of avoiding confrontation, I think people should stand by what they think, and fight for what they believe. It can be very rewarding.”
We tend to think that when we argue with our friends, we are growing apart; thay if we have different views from our friends, they won’t accept us. We should never compromise our morals amd accept things we do not believe to keep a friend or make a new one. If your friend can’t accept that you view things differently, that may not be the best friend for you. Just like in a marriage, a friendship cannot survive without a fight every once in a while. However, we should not make it hostile. We should always respect the values and views of our friends if we truly want to be able to call them our friends.
“Work hard at everything you do,” Jared Rackers added. “Commit, don’t quit. In the end, it will be worth it.”
It doesn’t matter what it is in our life; a half-hearted job deserves a half-hearted reward. Our society has appeared to become extremely lazy recently. Those who work their heart out are noticed. It is as simple as that. Whether you are diligent in your work, your studies, or your relationships, that hard work pays off. Extra effort is never wasted.
“Accept your failures!” Katy Macy believes. “Failing every once in a while helps you know what will work later in the future, and knowing how to accept failure is good too. Not all ideas are golden.”
All too often, we think that a failed relationship or test means that we lost. We forget that not every experience we have is a destination, but a pathway to something better. We can fail a test and still pass; that failure is just something to build on. After that, you may know what NOT to do, or what you need to do to get better. If a relationship fails, it failed for a reason. Nothing ends “just because.” After, you know what traits your future spouse may need, what you want them to be like, and what they definitely cannot be or do. We are never done learning in our lives; there will always be times when mistakes are made or people are hurt. However, it all depends on point of view. As one of my favorite authors, Bob Goff, once said, “God finds us in the holes we dig for ourselves. We see failures, He sees foundations.”
As we may have all learned as some point, high school is tough. These lessons may not be a cure-all for all the maladies in our lives today, but they are definitely a great way to start. What I have learned to be true, is that nothing can happen without time. There is no such thing as a magical fix-all. To make a positive impact in our lives, we have to step out of our comfort zones, stand up for ourselves, and be determined to make a difference.
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